When groups of friends start to have babies the dynamic can change. Mainly because no one can really explain what it’s like to carry a teeny tiny human, birth him or her and then wing it through motherhood.
It became apparent to me recently that I have friends, really good friends, who aren’t yet parents for lots of different reasons. One of them explained that it’s quite difficult to experience a bestie getting pregnant because you just don’t know how to support them if you haven’t been through it yourself.
True that, I thought. Pregnancy can be rough and being a mum-to-be is the best thing ever but the absolute pits as well. Time to expose all those things your mama never told you so you can be a true friend to your blossoming or ballooning bestie.
Your friend in trimester one: (week 1 - 13).
Your friend in trimester two: (week 14 - 26).
Your friend in trimester three: (week 27-40).
It’s important to acknowledge that when your friend does have a baby, she will feel extremely distant from everyone around her because new mumhood is intense as hell. She’ll only feel important for a few days while there’s a big hype and newborn pictures are shared to ‘oh my ovaries’ type responses. Try to ask her questions about her new normal. There will be days soon after the birth of her baby when she is overjoyed and others where she feels like she is going to crumble so make some time for her.